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Self-mastery
Self-mastery is your level of ability to behave deliberately. These resources explore awareness, discipline, resilience and the internal development required to grow.
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Overwhelm in day to day life usually builds quietly, often from an accumulation of simple things. There’s too much to do, and not enough space or capacity to do it. It shows up physically before it shows up dramatically. A tight chest. Shallow breathing. Holding your breath while you complete a small task. A mind…
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There is always another finish line. Perfectionism keeps us pushing, and over time that push can lead to burnout. I tell myself that once I submit the proposal, sort the house, complete the training block or have the difficult conversation, I’ll finally relax. That’s the finish line illusion at work. Perfectionism convinces me that calm…
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There’s every chance you will live with your difficulties at some level forever – that doesn’t mean they will be prominent all the time. Everyone has ‘issues’, the list of potential ones is long. In my experience we can get really good at recognising poor brain patterns, dysfunctional behaviours and negative feelings. Then become experts…
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Guilt is a feeling of responsibility or remorse for an action you’ve taken, a decision you’ve made, or inaction that conflicts with your moral standards or simply goes against what you think you should have done. Guilt isn’t limited to moral failings; it can arise in everyday decisions Sometimes, guilt stems from societal pressures or…
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I used to keep anger in my shadow. Not only did I hide it from others, but I didn’t understand why I needed it. Most of us are taught as a kid to suppress rage. It’s too difficult for our parents to deal with, it’s anti-social an unprofessional. I buy into that if it’s left…
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Oversharing is a thing. But so is suppressing your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps we fear boring someone, being judged or facing disagreement. But sharing what you really think, what’s really on your mind leads to good things. Might someone see it differently? Hopefully! Because what they see might give you a light bulb moment or…
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When you think of something, it creates a feeling. Action can then follow, or indeed thoughts plus associated actions further strengthen feelings. Is it as simple as changing your thought if you don’t like the feeling? I’ve found this to be true. Not easy, but true. Especially if you do it repetitively. It could just…
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Sad, angry, happy, scared, ok or not ok – it’s ok. Recognise it. Feel it. Study it. Perhaps the feeling is useful in taking an action, maybe it helps you learn something about yourself, or it could be based on a misunderstanding. Regardless, I’ve seen personally that when I take action it leads to something…
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It happens, even to the most mature. So what can make us lose our composure? It can be one or a combination of physical and mental triggers. Physical Triggers Mental Triggers Holding your composure takes ongoing management, proactive self-care and a regular balancing of your physical and mental state. It’s important that we counter stress…
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Our mindset impacts how we feel and how we behave. We can have many mindsets. And even build and trigger our own. This is useful as part of our self-mastery journey to help us achieve our goals and behave in-line with our principles.
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I think you can have a rational view that all things considered you are ‘happy’. That can be a broad term that covers a number of things like satisfaction, contentment and optimism. It’s also possible that at the same time your mood says otherwise. You might feel flat at times. That happens to us all.
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It happens to us all. Our head gets full and we need a way to handle it. It can feel like stress, overwhelm, or like you literally have no more brain capacity. It’s one of the reasons we react rather than respond. When our head gets full, the world starts to narrow. Small things feel…
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It’s easy to get caught up in the constant of tasks, responsibilities, and distractions. However, engaging in the practice of self-reflection can be a transformative and invaluable tool on our journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
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Why do we struggle to change, even when we already know what needs to happen? Often it isn’t a lack of insight, but the gap between understanding something and applying it when the moment comes. Knowledge feeds the Wise, but change only begins when the Wise takes the wheel and turns that understanding into deliberate…