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Depression doesn’t always look like staying in bed. Sometimes you function on the surface while something underneath has gone quiet. Sometimes there’s an obvious reason. Sometimes there isn’t. This is a piece about what it actually feels like, why deliberate action still matters when nothing feels like it will help, and when it’s time to…
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Most of us don’t need to build our Willing from scratch. Our softer, more gentle side is already there. The task is learning how to build your Willing in a way that makes it safe, easy to trust, and more available when life needs honesty, care or connection. For some people, their Willing has been…
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Most of us don’t need to build our Warrior from scratch, we already have one within us. The real skill is learning how to build your Warrior in a way that gives it a clear role, makes it dependable and used in a deliberate way. The issue is that it’s usually either buried, inconsistent, or…
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Sadness is something we all experience, but when it’s present it can feel hard to move through. It’s one of the most impactful feelings as it can stop you in your tracks, which not only feels difficult in the moment, but it can have a knock on impact on your relationships, health and work. At…
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Overwhelm in day to day life usually builds quietly, often from an accumulation of simple things. There’s too much to do, and not enough space or capacity to do it. It shows up physically before it shows up dramatically. A tight chest. Shallow breathing. Holding your breath while you complete a small task. A mind…
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There is always another finish line. Perfectionism keeps us pushing, and over time that push can lead to burnout. I tell myself that once I submit the proposal, sort the house, complete the training block or have the difficult conversation, I’ll finally relax. That’s the finish line illusion at work. Perfectionism convinces me that calm…
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There’s every chance you will live with your difficulties at some level forever – that doesn’t mean they will be prominent all the time. Everyone has ‘issues’, the list of potential ones is long. In my experience we can get really good at recognising poor brain patterns, dysfunctional behaviours and negative feelings. Then become experts…
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Mental health rarely drops suddenly Mental health changes are often gradual rather than sudden. Small shifts in energy, focus or patience can appear long before anything feels like a serious problem. Because the changes are subtle, they’re easy to ignore or explain away as stress, tiredness or a busy period. Over time those small signals…
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Oversharing is a thing. But so is suppressing your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps we fear boring someone, being judged or facing disagreement. But sharing what you really think, what’s really on your mind leads to good things. Might someone see it differently? Hopefully! Because what they see might give you a light bulb moment or…
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When you think of something, it creates a feeling. Action can then follow, or indeed thoughts plus associated actions further strengthen feelings. Is it as simple as changing your thought if you don’t like the feeling? I’ve found this to be true. Not easy, but true. Especially if you do it repetitively. It could just…
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Our mindset impacts how we feel and how we behave. We can have many mindsets. And even build and trigger our own. This is useful as part of our self-mastery journey to help us achieve our goals and behave in-line with our principles.
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I think you can have a rational view that all things considered you are ‘happy’. That can be a broad term that covers a number of things like satisfaction, contentment and optimism. It’s also possible that at the same time your mood says otherwise. You might feel flat at times. That happens to us all.
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It’s easy to get caught up in the constant of tasks, responsibilities, and distractions. However, engaging in the practice of self-reflection can be a transformative and invaluable tool on our journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
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Why do we struggle to change, even when we already know what needs to happen? Often it isn’t a lack of insight, but the gap between understanding something and applying it when the moment comes. Knowledge feeds the Wise, but change only begins when the Wise takes the wheel and turns that understanding into deliberate…