Wisdom
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My loved ones, therapist, and even that discomfort in my gut have all told me the same thing—I lack balance in where I direct my focus and should put myself first more. But I’ve struggled with this, especially in my most important relationships and work. The very idea feels like it contradicts my core beliefs
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There’s every chance you will live with your difficulties at some level forever – that doesn’t mean they will be prominent all the time. Everyone has ‘issues’, the list of potential ones is long. In my experience we can get really good at recognising poor brain patterns, dysfunctional behaviours and negative feelings. Then become experts
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Do you need time? What you with it does, because none of us know how much time we actually have. We can all consider how we spend our time and what feels best. Some of us choose the mindset that the world happens to us, others believe we get to drive. I think it’s a
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Thinking about this can help you explore the complexity of human nature, the balance of emotions that shape our lives and the value of each emotion you consider
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Guilt isn’t limited to moral failings; it can arise in everyday decisions. Sometimes, guilt stems from societal pressures or unrealistic expectations rather than genuine moral conflicts.
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Imagine someone on a tightrope – it might look precarious, unstable even. But there is great personal stability through balance. One of my highest values in life is a stable environment for me and my family. My drive for this was born from not having it as a child.
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When trauma happens and you find yourself in hell, hold onto the fact that we are designed to find meaning.
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Oversharing is a thing. But so is suppressing your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps we fear boring someone, being judged or facing disagreement. But sharing what you really think, what’s really on your mind leads to gold.
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Sad, angry, happy, scared, ok or not ok – it’s ok. Recognise it. Feel it. Study it.
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Not because you’ll be liked more, but because you’ll attract people who you’re more compatible with. It’s only fair on you and those who may fall in love with you.
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There is happiness in an upward trajectory, not just in moving forward or your current position in any given part of your life.
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This is one from Arnold Schwarzenegger and it’s a good one. Help around the house, contribute to conversations, say yes to the difficult, be a positive presence.
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Maintaining a state of physical equilibrium not only looks after body, giving a greater chance of physical longevity, but we know it impacts our mental state too. Try balancing these 3 things.
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You need fuel to move forward. It can be negative or positive fuel. Negative fuel might be proving someone wrong, revenge, fear, power or greed.
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I love this saying. It combines youthful freedom with grit and determination. It’s an expression of attitude.
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Reading something in a book is a greater way to expand your knowledge. It’s then the application of that information and exposure to real life scenarios which builds your experience, maturity and wisdom.
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The happiness equation is complicated at times. Usually because of our emotions. Let’s use work as an example. Say you feel like you’ve given all you want to for a company…
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When you think about it logically, it’s better that if we can, we all work because it contributes to the economy – which whether we like it or not, enables the majority of us to live.
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By ‘me’ I mean who ever is reading this (including actual me 😊) We are responsible for ourselves. The actions we take, our behaviors and what we spend time on.
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Our brain is what experiences things, but at a very basic level our body is the vehicle which we use to move through life. So we need to look after it.
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One of my principles is to never quit the important things in life – my parents used to give up a lot which I resolved never to do. Being trustworthy is also important to me, so if I say I’m going to do something, I need to stick to my word. Then there’s the completer…
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There have been times where I’ve felt work ‘gets in the way’ of the important things in life. It takes your time and energy, often out of ‘work hours’ too as you think about the challenges you face.
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If you include a broader set of feelings such as fulfilment, contentment and satisfaction. Plus you accept feelings come and go; vary in their intensity; and are impacted by your body chemistry and surroundings, then I say yes it is.
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I’ve used exercise for things like a vehicle for self-mastery, headspace for self-reflection and more. But its role needs careful thought.
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You might have the time, but not the mental capacity or physical energy to do something meaningful. Equally, it could be the other way around…
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I’m a better dad, husband and colleague when I exercise. So although it uses time that I can’t get back (which others might argue could be better spent), for me and those I’m with, it’s a good investment.
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For me, happiness is made up from the following ingredients: relationships with loved ones, personal growth, helping others in their journey, living, exploring and enjoy what the world has to offer. We all get to choose our own recipe, but the ingredients list is the same…
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It’s easy to get caught up in the constant of tasks, responsibilities, and distractions. However, engaging in the practice of self-reflection can be a transformative and invaluable tool on our journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
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What do you think will happen if you hang out with expert chefs, fast runners or people who laugh a lot?
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Be clear on what matters to you – your personal values, your goals, the people you love. Then create a plan, educate yourself and do what you think is right.
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You can grow through consistent, but easier exposure to ‘stress’. But the big growth comes from carrying on when you want to stop. This should only be applied to the important things.
Actfullness 