You're the average of who you spend the most time with

Act with full awareness.

You’re the average of who you spend the most time with

What do you think will happen if you hang out with expert chefs, fast runners or people who laugh a lot?

If it’s something you’re not that good at, you’ll get better…

If on the other hand, you’re better than the group, you’ll pull the average up.

That’s a win win, because you’re either growing or helping someone make progress.

The moral of the story is you need to consider who you spend your time with, align that to what matters and open your mind to what you can learn from others.

Written by Alex. I write about responding more deliberately, mostly drawing on what I’ve learned getting it wrong.

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