Shadow work
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My loved ones, therapist, and even that discomfort in my gut have all told me the same thing—I lack balance in where I direct my focus and should put myself first more. But I’ve struggled with this, especially in my most important relationships and work. The very idea feels like it contradicts my core beliefs
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This was a subconscious belief I had, which ultimately fed my insecurities of being abandoned. It’s an unhealthy view because it’s not real life. My parents never fell out – or at least not that I ever saw. They prioritised each other and were constantly talking. They also believe in until death do us part.
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There’s every chance you will live with your difficulties at some level forever – that doesn’t mean they will be prominent all the time. Everyone has ‘issues’, the list of potential ones is long. In my experience we can get really good at recognising poor brain patterns, dysfunctional behaviours and negative feelings. Then become experts
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I like to face my feelings. Run at them head on until I resolve them. I find thinking, writing and talking are best. Researching too. I guess it depends on the feeling and how well I understand it. This approach isn’t the only way of course. Some people need space from everything and everyone. It’s
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Thinking about this can help you explore the complexity of human nature, the balance of emotions that shape our lives and the value of each emotion you consider
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Guilt isn’t limited to moral failings; it can arise in everyday decisions. Sometimes, guilt stems from societal pressures or unrealistic expectations rather than genuine moral conflicts.
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I used to keep anger in my shadow. Not only did I hide it from others, but I didn’t understand why I needed it.
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I use my feelings and behaviours as signals that my mental health is dipping. But it takes self-awareness to notice and then take action
Actfullness 