I believe that being selfish when everyone benefits is wise thinking. However we do need to be careful in our relationships that we don’t always put ourselves first.

Doing so can make those who are actually important, feel unimportant. I also think it’s also good for our soul to spend some of our energy serving others.

Finding the balance depends on you and your loved ones.

For example, you may need to put yourself first more than your partner does, or visa versa. But it does need to work for both of you.

I’ve found this balance has phases. There have been times where my wife has sacrificed a lot for me, and times where the opposite is true.

As you’ll have heard a lot, the key is to talk to each other.