What I’ve learnt so far from my marriage coming to an end:
- It’s ok to feel whatever it is you’re feeling
- All feels are valuable
- Thoughts create feeling. Change the thought to change the feeling
- People change
- Love might not last forever
- I am worthy
- I will never abandon myself
- My sister loves me unconditionally
- Others will be there for you, if you let them
- I have suppressed too many parts of me in the past
- Stability and integrity are my highest values
- Balance is more stable than a set foundation
- I always find meaning
How I’ve changed so far:
- I notice, respect and give attention to ALL my feelings. Sometimes I manage them in private, other times I use them. They all add value. There is gold to be found in ever feeling and reaction. I love every side of me – even the dark shadow
- I recognise other people feelings are not mine to own. I empathise, but I don’t take them with me or change my behaviours unless I want to
- I trust my gut and don’t waste energy questioning it, unless it’s an important decision
- I am determined to help my kids be me and more
- I don’t fear anything
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